Another new year has arrived. Dozens of new resolutions have been “made” (that is, swirled around in the chaos of my brain). I have been doing fairly well in keeping up with these “resolutions” in a general sense. I’ve been watching what I eat, getting back to the gym, getting up on time, keeping the house semi-tidy, not eating out as much, not spending money on non-necessities… I’d say the first ten days of the new year have been a success in those areas. But then I read some other people’s blogs and some things started to dawn on me. Yes, all these health and organization based resolutions are good ones, but what do I TRULY want out of this next year? To be in better health and save some money are definitely high on the list, but there are some other things I really want to figure out.
Like how to be a better mom? Oh yeah, I forgot about that one momentarily. To be a better friend? Crap, that was one too. To write? Well, of course. To be happy? Yes, but that’s a tall order.
So, as a point of reference, here are the things I want to do this year. I will look back in December and see how close I’ve come.
1. Improve my health (and the boys’ health, too!)
- some form of exercise daily, even if it is just a walk
- learn more about nutrition
- train for and participate in the jersey girl triathlon
- eating out/taking out less than once a week
- go to the dentist–all of us!
- go to the doctor for necessary checkup/physical/tests for someone of my age 🙂
- finally quit smoking. for real. not even “every once and a while”
2. Save Money
- attempt to put enough money away out of my paycheck to fund “Operation Disney Christmas” (to be discussed in a later post)
- additionally save some money for an emergency.
3. Be a Better Mom
- cut out the yelling
- let go of all the stuff i feel has to “get done” and spend more time just hanging out with the boys
- write down all important dates, invitations, times, events, etc. so that I don’t MISS anything like I did last year
- refuse to argue with 6-year-olds even if my decision/statement/action is unpopular
- never skip bedtime reading because i’m too tired or they’re too naughty
- put the “martyr” to rest
- go after the child support that they deserve
4. Write. A little every day. Even if it is just in a journal. And dedicate finishing NaNoWriMo to my dear angel friend Joel. (RIP)
5. Be a better friend
- make more phone calls to long distance friends
- send more cards/letters/emails to keep in touch
- make time for coffee, lunch, dinner, wine, movies, whatever…a couple of hours, every couple of weeks to keep friendships alive
6. Be happy
- avoid referring to the above list for the whole year and judging my progress
- make mistakes and move on
- laugh more
- say “oh well!” and “who cares?!” more
- go to church
- read the Desiderata & the prayer of St. Francis regularly
It seems like a long list, but I think overall it is a good one. I am ready to make 2012 one of the happiest years yet. Oh, and here are some “bonus” things I would like to do this year:
Put all of the boys’ baby photos in physical albums and scrapbooks
Buy a dishwasher, microwave, computer, bookcase, chair or sofa for the living room, drapes
Finish painting kitchen and “other” room (and maybe decide on a name for the “other” room)
Do something about the bathroom
These are truly bonuses and mostly revolve around the house. I will not let myself get wrapped up in these items and let them effect my truly resolution of “being happy”. After all, it is just stuff and half-painted rooms…